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如何扮酷---How to Be Cool
作者:Eric.Gau 日期:2009-04-29
你是否想成为酷哥或者酷妹呢?! 一般我们认为比较酷的人都具备以下特点: 他们/她们自信,自立,友善. 因此我们没有理由不想自己也变酷!
Have you always wanted to be the cool guy, who always seems to do the right thing? or are you dying to be the cool girl, who flows through life with ease and grace? If you think about all the people who you think of as cool, you'll find that they have several characteristics in common: they're all confident, unique, and on friendly terms with everyone. There's no reason you can't be like that yourself.
你是否想成为酷哥或者酷妹呢?! 一般我们认为比较酷的人都具备以下特点: 他们/她们自信,自立,友善. 因此我们没有理由不想自己也变酷!
通过以下步骤可以变酷
Steps
1.通过不在乎别人对你的看法的行动;
2.了解别人对你的感觉;
3.尝试让自己自信和舒服;
4.寻找真正的朋友;
5.不要畏惧与众不同;
6.大声说话;
7.学会自我嘲笑;
8.列出你要实现的目标;
9.经常深呼吸;
10.对人友善,但是切记过于热情.
Act like you don't care what people think of you. We will always, on some level, be concerned with others' opinions of ourselves, but realise that ultimately, you'll never be able to please everyone, so why bother trying? People have millions of ways to get under your skin. Learn to spot them and become immune.
Be aware of how people perceive you. This might seem to contradict the previous step, but there's a difference in letting people's judgments affect your self esteem, and being aware of how you come off to others. What you are really doing is learning how to better perceive yourself. In terms of physical appearance, beware of food getting stuck in your teeth, bad breath, body odour, toilet paper stuck to your shoe, etc. In terms of composure, try not to stare too much (it makes people uncomfortable), stand/sit up straight (it makes you look and feel more confident), smile generously, be polite and considerate, etc.
Present yourself in a way that makes you feel the most comfortable and confident. Walk with good posture and look people in the eye. If you slump or stare at your feet, people won't respect you. You have to look and feel confident in order to receive the respect you need.
Find real friends. For example, if people don't hang out with you because you don't wear designer clothes, they are not real friends. Instead, find friends that see you for who you are. If the people standing in front of you can't see you for you, then how can they be your friend?
Don't be afraid to be different, whether that means standing up for yourself, defending someone else, or taking interest in something that no one else does, like playing an instrument or dancing when no one else will. The coolest people are the ones who occasionally break against the tide and make people question the status quo.
Speak up. Observe people who are "cool"--they usually speak confidently and clearly, at a good pace. They don't chatter rapidly, pause, or mumble. They say what they mean, and mean what they say. Be confident in your word and don't let anyone try and change it. If you state your opinion and people disagree, don't worry. You said what you felt and people will respect you for that. However, make it count. Don't shout out your opinion just to be heard. Make sure it's relevant, and be ready to back it up soundly.
Learn how to laugh at yourself. Being cool doesn't mean being perfect, and being able to find humour in your moments of clumsiness and discomfort is the defining hallmark of being cool. People will not only respect you for it, but they'll like you for being human, just like them.
Write a list of all of the goals you are aiming for. What essentially makes you cool is your identity. Try to find your talent -- sports, music, art, whatever. People will notice your passion and respect you for it.
Take a deep breath. Being cool is all about being relaxed and comfortable in any circumstance. Don't lose your cool. If you feel yourself about to lose your temper, or burst into tears, or lose control in any way, take a deep breath and excuse yourself. Stay calm. Don't be disruptive, annoying, or have unpredictable mood changes. You are serene and steadfast in your coolness and it should show. That means not getting too caught up in anything, not even your cool self.
Be friendly, but not excessively eager. Everyone loves someone who is outgoing, but nobody likes someone who is overly excited. Many people find someone who is overeager to be annoying. Try not to force yourself on people. Smile and strike up a conversation, but make sure you know the line between friendly and obsessive.
Tips
It is way uncool to trip or fall in front of millions of people only to get up and lose your composure and act defeated. In this instance, you'll be the laughing stock of your witnesses. These things can happen to anyone, so if you DO trip and fall, when you get up, confidently brush yourself off, give the thumbs up, and go on your way. Keeping your composure is key.
Be humble. Vanity isn't cool.
If being picked on is your worry, know and understand that showing yourself affected by it is precisely what separates the coolest from the others, and take this as a chance to actually be perceived as cool. Know that who you are in your core is not determined by others, especially if they don´t truly know you. Be happy with yourself as you are, since there is nothing really wrong with you in your core.
Find a way to love learning. The coolest people do a lot of really cool things. There is an old system that says the more you practice the easier something is to do. When you can learn something really well it's easier to be cool at it.
Warnings
Don't base your coolness on making others seem un-cool. You'll make more enemies than friends that way. People aren't going to worship someone who bosses or beats them around all the time. They'll be scared maybe, but they won't respect you.
Don't lose sight of yourself or your morals. Being cool isn't about changing who you are, its about being confident enough to let people see how awesome you really are.
Being cool can be a challenge. A lot of people who aren't cool can slow your path to coolness down. So if something puts you in a bad mood, it's good to have reminders of your end goal of being awesomely cool. Also if your mood distracts you enough for you to forget your end goal reminders can help you stay positive.
You get the coolest by staying cool the longest. Practice makes perfect.
FROM: http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Cool
Have you always wanted to be the cool guy, who always seems to do the right thing? or are you dying to be the cool girl, who flows through life with ease and grace? If you think about all the people who you think of as cool, you'll find that they have several characteristics in common: they're all confident, unique, and on friendly terms with everyone. There's no reason you can't be like that yourself.
你是否想成为酷哥或者酷妹呢?! 一般我们认为比较酷的人都具备以下特点: 他们/她们自信,自立,友善. 因此我们没有理由不想自己也变酷!
通过以下步骤可以变酷
Steps
1.通过不在乎别人对你的看法的行动;
2.了解别人对你的感觉;
3.尝试让自己自信和舒服;
4.寻找真正的朋友;
5.不要畏惧与众不同;
6.大声说话;
7.学会自我嘲笑;
8.列出你要实现的目标;
9.经常深呼吸;
10.对人友善,但是切记过于热情.
Act like you don't care what people think of you. We will always, on some level, be concerned with others' opinions of ourselves, but realise that ultimately, you'll never be able to please everyone, so why bother trying? People have millions of ways to get under your skin. Learn to spot them and become immune.
Be aware of how people perceive you. This might seem to contradict the previous step, but there's a difference in letting people's judgments affect your self esteem, and being aware of how you come off to others. What you are really doing is learning how to better perceive yourself. In terms of physical appearance, beware of food getting stuck in your teeth, bad breath, body odour, toilet paper stuck to your shoe, etc. In terms of composure, try not to stare too much (it makes people uncomfortable), stand/sit up straight (it makes you look and feel more confident), smile generously, be polite and considerate, etc.
Present yourself in a way that makes you feel the most comfortable and confident. Walk with good posture and look people in the eye. If you slump or stare at your feet, people won't respect you. You have to look and feel confident in order to receive the respect you need.
Find real friends. For example, if people don't hang out with you because you don't wear designer clothes, they are not real friends. Instead, find friends that see you for who you are. If the people standing in front of you can't see you for you, then how can they be your friend?
Don't be afraid to be different, whether that means standing up for yourself, defending someone else, or taking interest in something that no one else does, like playing an instrument or dancing when no one else will. The coolest people are the ones who occasionally break against the tide and make people question the status quo.
Speak up. Observe people who are "cool"--they usually speak confidently and clearly, at a good pace. They don't chatter rapidly, pause, or mumble. They say what they mean, and mean what they say. Be confident in your word and don't let anyone try and change it. If you state your opinion and people disagree, don't worry. You said what you felt and people will respect you for that. However, make it count. Don't shout out your opinion just to be heard. Make sure it's relevant, and be ready to back it up soundly.
Learn how to laugh at yourself. Being cool doesn't mean being perfect, and being able to find humour in your moments of clumsiness and discomfort is the defining hallmark of being cool. People will not only respect you for it, but they'll like you for being human, just like them.
Write a list of all of the goals you are aiming for. What essentially makes you cool is your identity. Try to find your talent -- sports, music, art, whatever. People will notice your passion and respect you for it.
Take a deep breath. Being cool is all about being relaxed and comfortable in any circumstance. Don't lose your cool. If you feel yourself about to lose your temper, or burst into tears, or lose control in any way, take a deep breath and excuse yourself. Stay calm. Don't be disruptive, annoying, or have unpredictable mood changes. You are serene and steadfast in your coolness and it should show. That means not getting too caught up in anything, not even your cool self.
Be friendly, but not excessively eager. Everyone loves someone who is outgoing, but nobody likes someone who is overly excited. Many people find someone who is overeager to be annoying. Try not to force yourself on people. Smile and strike up a conversation, but make sure you know the line between friendly and obsessive.
Tips
It is way uncool to trip or fall in front of millions of people only to get up and lose your composure and act defeated. In this instance, you'll be the laughing stock of your witnesses. These things can happen to anyone, so if you DO trip and fall, when you get up, confidently brush yourself off, give the thumbs up, and go on your way. Keeping your composure is key.
Be humble. Vanity isn't cool.
If being picked on is your worry, know and understand that showing yourself affected by it is precisely what separates the coolest from the others, and take this as a chance to actually be perceived as cool. Know that who you are in your core is not determined by others, especially if they don´t truly know you. Be happy with yourself as you are, since there is nothing really wrong with you in your core.
Find a way to love learning. The coolest people do a lot of really cool things. There is an old system that says the more you practice the easier something is to do. When you can learn something really well it's easier to be cool at it.
Warnings
Don't base your coolness on making others seem un-cool. You'll make more enemies than friends that way. People aren't going to worship someone who bosses or beats them around all the time. They'll be scared maybe, but they won't respect you.
Don't lose sight of yourself or your morals. Being cool isn't about changing who you are, its about being confident enough to let people see how awesome you really are.
Being cool can be a challenge. A lot of people who aren't cool can slow your path to coolness down. So if something puts you in a bad mood, it's good to have reminders of your end goal of being awesomely cool. Also if your mood distracts you enough for you to forget your end goal reminders can help you stay positive.
You get the coolest by staying cool the longest. Practice makes perfect.
FROM: http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Cool
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